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Effect of Divorce on Teens Life

Monday, February 9th, 2009

It is a fact that parents are the important resources for children. They provide emotional support to them and give advice to them in problems. Parents are the role models for their children. The children are shocked when they hear the news of divorce of their parents. Each child will react differently when they hear the news about the divorce of their parents. Initially, they express anger or fear. Some of the children feel shame and they hide the news from their friends. Children of divorced parents suffered .They did less well at school and were emotionally disturbed. Suffered children were negatively affected by the loss of their parents. Some of the children who involve great affection with their parent are faced depression.

Teenagers have the danger to becoming more aggressive and perverse or diminishing. Some older children may feel deep sadness. Their schoolwork may suffer and behavior problems are common. The study on divorce cases showed that the children of divorced parents have higher rates of academic problems along with psychological problems and behavioral problems as compare to the kids whose parents remained married.

It is also seen that children of divorced parents were usually not having a good relationship with their parents as compare to the children whose parents would stay together. The children whose parents would divorce have not performed well in academic, the reason behind this is their parents would attend fewer school events, and were less likely to do things or discuss school-related issues with their children.

It is seen that divorce affects boys more than girls. The boys face behavioral problems in school during the early period and through the initial few years after the divorce. Their academic performance is decreased. They often involve with drugs and alcohol. In case of girls they show depression over the divorce and changes taking place in their lives. Their academic performance is also decreased. Teenager more likely to involved with older crowd and established sexual relationships much earlier than those whose parents would stay together. It is the responsibility of the parents that they prevent their child from this situation. They have to prevent themselves from the effect of divorce.

Today the most of the children’s are facing depression problem. When children feel depressed they may withdraw from their parents or loved ones. They may forget their homework and keep themselves busy in discontinue activities that once brought them pleasure. Their eating habits may change dramatically. To help your children encourage them to share their sadness as well as their anger with you or another responsible member of the family with whom they feel safe. Assure them that these feelings will decrease with the passes of time and help them till they seem to be feeling better.

3 Skills that Can Save a Teen’s Life

Wednesday, September 5th, 2007

Suicide, sex, and drugs are dangers for teens. Homemade abortions, risky behavior, unrealistic expectations of life, and many other perilous things can make a teen’s life not only stressful and unmanageable, but short as well. Teens simply don’t have the necessary skills to face these serious difficulties, or the inclination to take advice from parents. They rely almost exclusively on peers.

So we have a problem: The peers are teenagers themselves and as mixed up as our kids – how can they not be? The problems they are facing take a lifetime of experience to understand, and our teenagers are barely babies when thrown out into the world, expected to fend for themselves, while parents work 60 hour weeks to support them. Even if parents were familiar with the skills that would help their kids survive this most crucial period of their lives, what parent has time to teach them?

Let’s face it; by the time our kids reach their teenage years, it’s too late to do much of anything except perhaps pick up the pieces. A recent pediatrics poll revealed that 71 % of those polled considered the formative years to be between one and five years of age,very early on, and up to 12 years. This is a small window of opportunity for parents, and occurs just when parents are up to their eyeballs in making a living and coping with so many other thing s in life.

How could parents ever have the time or expertise to teach their kids these three skills that could save their lives:

(1) Realistic expectations of life (great or small) regardless of their parents’ level of accomplishment.

(2) That all things change and no one thing can be relied upon to provide endless happiness.

(3) A healthy understanding of themselves, and that their personal, interior feelings will change from day to day and shouldn’t be acted upon immediately.

These are serious and profound understandings. How can parents teach their kids complicated lessons such as these when the parents might have not yet discovered these lessons for themselves? It’s actually easy, if parents begin in the formative years. The method is simply . . . silence! Silence alone teaches children all the skills they need to make it in the world. This is uncomplicated because silence is where intelligence is born, not on the internet or TV. Silence is what touches our deepest being and creates a mind that is aware, an awareness that makes all the difference between stupidity and discernment when it comes down to important decisions. Awareness is that edge, that hesitation for one brief moment, long enough to fend off impulsive actions.

Awareness such as this cannot be taught from an outside source, it comes from inside, and once it is awakened, the child has a fighting chance in the world. Then expectations, if not met, do not become tragic failures. Drugs do not become a ticket for acceptance into peer groups that are now viewed less dramatically. And feelings are understood for what they are, merely feelings that come and go, not basically “us.”

This is what good parents instill in a child; the courage to see clearly and not be easily influenced by either peers or groups that wish to control their minds. The child learns to be free with the help of his or her parents, and a child that becomes free is a fortunate child indeed. Teach your kids how to become free beginning today. Take 15 minutes out each day, in the evenings, and sit quietly with the entire family. Just sit quietly. You don’t have to inject any religious connotation, as religion can be a turn-off that causes teens to rebel. Just sit quietly with the children, especially the younger ones. If you do this without fail, it will become the most important 15 minutes of the day, and perhaps the most important 15 minutes of not only the child’s life but the life of the parents as well.